ABOUT TRANS KINK LOS ANGELES TKLA

Trans Kink Los Angeles is a trans-centered kink org in Los Angeles, run by me. Aggressively analog, educational(?) and fun. This is a collection of classes and safe(r) play spaces. This is not a community, intentionally. I generally think that trans people don't need yet another "community" where sexual availability is linked to resources. You might find a community here. It's not built-in. Call it a harm reduction project, or an education project, or a worker solidarity project. In the background, it's kind of my catalyst for studying queer sexuality.

TKLA Events

• ⛓ The play party -- [[redacted, don't worry about why.]]
• ⛓ The classes -- learn more advanced skills!
• ⛓ The rope jams -- study, skillshare, and meet new friends!
• ⛓ The munches -- meet new people. So sorry, you gotta come to MY favorite coffee place for this.

TKLA Benefits

Cruising -- Not chill with the vibe of the greater tech-bros squinting at your sexting? Connect with the people you meet post-event here instead.

The resource library -- Always updating with resources on doing better kink and having better sex, and doing dangerous things in safer ways.

Become PAID staff! -- Trans people, chronically used for free labor in the spirit of "community". Not here. We pay our staff, and pay for additional educational opportunities as they pop up. We reinvest in you.

SERVICES-- TEACHING, DEMOS, SESSIONS, ETC

I teach classes, I do demos at parties, and I do paid sessions. Inquire at tanglerope@proton.me, References available upon request.

I teach:

Technical

• Baby's first self-suspension -- what makes a structure safe to pull on, pre-flight checklists, uplines, and how to "fix" something that doesn't feel right.
• Rope 101 -- Lego bricks for the brand-new. Totally self-tie!
• Rope 102 -- Negotiation, consent, creating powerful energies, and how to actually play! (This is very easy to squish with 101)

Vibes-based

• Overcoming Play Anxiety -- Learn to "get over it" and take a deep breath for better play, for you and your partners.
• Designing scenes -- Turn a tie into a scene. Do drills with us to create better energies, decide with your partners on goals, and actually reach them!
• Managing the stress of being popular -- intentionally cheeky title. Ever got overwhelmed with the attention of having just a few perceivable skills as a rigger? Join and find out how to navigate the new world you've unlocked... by being really, really good at something!
• The consent kitchen -- For newcomers to the scene, a deep-dive into negotiation, kink, consent. Beyond your high school sex ed, this teaches you how to get what you want, help your lovers get what they want, and how to move when things go wrong.

I do demos

Hire me to do demos at your event! I do groundwork, suspension, for beginners and those experienced with rope. Rates flexible, and dependent on whether I can accept tips.

I do sessions

Hire me to tie you! I do cheaper demos at events often! I post about these on my instagram. Private sessions, inquire at tanglerope@proton.me.

PERSONAL

New era: extraordinarily low tolerance for bullshit.

Short version:

• I'm not open to pickup play. Even if you ask nicely at a dungeon, the answer will be no.
• I am monogamish in my current relationship structure. His name is baxter and he's beautiful.
• I'm also not open to playing with people I primarily have a teaching relationship with.

I tie myself. It's what I built everything on. In the least mean way possible, What makes playing with you worth the risk? Why should I tie or be tied by you when I could tie myself and have exactly the experience I want?

If that makes you feel angry, take a second here to evaluate why before you read on.

I'll make it really easy for you here. The answer is because you are my friend or my lover, and we care about each other.

I only tie for fun with people I consider friends outside of rope. You will likely meet my foster kittens before you meet my ropes. If you aren't chill with that, I have so many beautiful, beautiful homies you can pay to get tied exactly how you want.

transkinkla.org -- for tkla events, resources for learning, and more.

sillypvnk.org -- for kittens and adoption info, for the matrix of mutual aid resources in LA, for rope resources, for code and other tools, and for whatever the hell else I wanna put up.