Which means you're from a dating app probably. My approach to dating these days is...uuhhhh, radical honesty. Read this. If I scare you away, wasn't meant to be. Godspeed.
Basics
I'm carter :) I'm carter :) I'm 26, I'm a polyamorous trans dude. I'm a runner, a kitten foster parent, a vegan for the animals, and a mutual aider, mostly for homeless/unhoused people and my trans and queer community. still covid conscious and will be for the rest of my life. I do shibari and petplay as my kinks. I'm looking for life partners.
Short version, I'm looking for an adult that I think is beautiful to be my partner for a very long time, in a relationship where we are 2 amazing people separately, doing even cooler things together than we could do alone.
Long version,
You're my type if:
You care about and are kind to animals
You have some kind of fitness-y hobby
You have some kind of creative-y hobby
You are generally health conscious
You can hold a conversation
You are interested in BDSM
You're not spooked by the idea of commitment in the context of polyamory
You aren't spooked that I have a website where I listed all this stuff out
You can have conflicts calmly, and can hear the other side of the conflict
You value real life time over digital time
You have a fucked high sex drive, but can still hear a no
You can talk in depth about what consent means to you
You care about trying for my orgasm as much as I care about trying for yours, but you don't need both of us to orgasm to have a fun sexual experience
You'll let me earn your trust, and once I have it, you'll let me in to the most vulnerable parts of you
I don't need you to:
-share my dietary restrictions.
-be a runner or a lifter specifically
-be into shibari
-be into petplay.
-be monogamous with me.
I'm not interested in you if:
-you're younger than 23, and even that is pushing it. Pushing back on that and telling me you're mature for your age makes me feel like a predator. Please don't do that.
-you're going to leave LA soon. I'm not interested in people that anticipate they're going to move within the next year or 2.
-you are a cis woman. Love ya, but I want something queer about my love. I'm T4T first, and a gay dude second. I don't wanna be a straight dude outside of a T4T pair.
-you don't have some kind of job. I need to know that you can support me in hard times, just like I will be able to support you in yours.
-you can't ask me questions about my world with about the same frequency I ask you questions about yours. You gotta care about me as much as I care about you.
-you want a cool, one time shibari experience.
-you're only looking for hookups or a friend with benefits.
-you're only looking for someone to teach you.
-you are a stone bottom for BDSM stuff
-your brand of polyamory and your current goals don't leave you in a spot where you might be happy to call me your boyfriend in a month or 2 of happy dating.
-you are interested in what my genitals look like, and not much else.
-you think "haha" alone is a good text to send someone new in the getting to know each other phase. Give me SOMETHING to work with, love.
-you cannot gracefully accept a no.
-you need to be asked 7 times to clean something before you do it.
-(if you're trans) you have a dysphoric experience attached to what I look like, and you intend on making me responsibile for your dysphoria.
The trajectory of dating me is like this:
-I'll respond if I think you might be a match. We chat, we go on a date after a few level setting messages. It goes well, or it doesn't. If I don't like you, I will tell you why if I trust you won't push back or have an adverse reaction. If I don't trust that, I'll ghost you out of kindness for both of us.
My insta is sillypvnk! if you really think we're a match, my DMs there are open.